For most kids, marriage goes hand-in-hand with happily-ever-after. Unfortunately, when you grow older, you know better. Happily-ever-after is not something that sticks. It’s something you constantly have to work towards and, it’s not going to be easy.
Trends show that 20% of married couples break up within the first 5 years. Don’t panic just yet. Marriage isn’t easy. With that said, let’s get to know some of the reasons why a marriage may fall apart within its first 5 years and some tips for a healthy relationship.
5 Reasons Why a Marriage Falls Apart So Early
Arguments are pretty normal in a marriage. With that said, how do you know when normal becomes not-so-normal anymore? Here are five of the most common reasons why couples decide to get a divorce within the first 5 years of their marriage.
1. Religious Differences
Think about this. You’re on a first date with someone. What are the questions you typically ask? It most definitely won’t include what their religion is. After the first date, let’s say you adore them and have a second date. After the second date, you have a third, a fourth, and so on. You’re so wrapped up in the romance of it all that you forget to bring up the topic of religion. It’s either that or you simply don’t think religion plays an important role in your relationship.
While this doesn’t happen all the time, it does happen often enough that it becomes a common reason for couples to separate. It’s important to be aware of your partner’s traditions, culture, and religion as it plays a big role in their lives.
2. Clashing Life Plans
We’re sure you have your dreams, goals, ambitions, and life plans. When you decide to get married, you have to make sure your hubby and their life plans fit into yours or that you’re willing to compromise. If you don’t, you’ll soon find that your loved one might not fit so well into your life and it will cause your marriage to fall apart.
3. Financial Troubles
Debt and financial troubles are tough by themselves. Add being in a relationship and suffering through bad finances with them and there’s bound to be some blaming and arguments. Debts don’t often come up at the beginning of a relationship. Make sure you talk about this and how you plan to pay off your debts and get to a stable financial place in your life together before deciding to get married.
4. Domestic Abuse
Whether it be verbal or physical, domestic abuse is a big reason why couples decide to break it off. Abuse is never the way to go even when you’re angry with your partner. It is never right to harm another person in that way. If you find yourself in an abusive relationship, make sure to call your local domestic violence hotline and get yourself out of that relationship.
5. Lack of Communication
Lack of communication has got to be the most common reason for couples to break up or divorce. When you keep secrets or refuse to talk to your significant other, you’re promoting an unstable relationship and showing that you are an untrustworthy person. While love is an important ingredient in a successful relationship, you’ll have a half-baked one if you don’t add trust to the mix.
Tips for a Healthy Relationship
Now that we’ve discussed why marriages fall apart, what can you do about it? Here are some important tips you can use to improve and foster a healthy relationship.
1. Communication is a must.
Most of the reasons above all stem from lack of communication. If you want a healthy relationship, make sure you know how to respectfully and efficiently communicate with one another to avoid all the secret-keeping and problems that make marriages fall apart.
2. Selfishness was never in season.
A healthy relationship requires selflessness. Sometimes, you have to compromise. When it comes to big life decisions, you have to make sure everyone affected is happy with the decision. Don’t spring something on your partner. Communicate with them and be willing to compromise when you have to. After all, you aren’t the only person in the relationship.
3. Let’s stay open-minded.
Sometimes, your partner will like things you don’t like yourself or do things you wouldn’t normally do. Stay open-minded. Unless they’re breaking the law or harming another person, it’s your job to be supportive.
Healthy relationships are #goals. Whether you’re worried if your marriage is heading towards divorce or you’re just curious, we hope that this article has helped clear things up a bit. Remember, the key to a healthy marriage is communication and equal effort to make things work out from both parties.